How To Be Our Husbands Suitable Helper
God made both male and female, both of us very different from one another but both of us made for a purpose. We are made to compliment one another perfectly in our roles as husband and wife when we live according to Gods plan. When we do live according to His plan, we see how wonderfully our roles compliment one another and the blessing that it is and can look at it as an honor to be our husband’s suitable helper. We will focus on how to be our husband’s suitable helper in three main areas.
The first main area of a suitable helper is to be a wife who serves our husbands. We are called to serve just as Jesus came to serve us. (Matthew 20:28) Just as Jesus came to serve us and to meet our every need, we can serve our husbands by anticipating and acting on our husbands needs and to esteem them as better then self. (Phillipians 2:3) This is not to say, we are in any way less important in the marriage. But as our husbands suitable helper, we are his partner, one who encourages, cooperates and is supportive of him in his God-given role as head of household submitting to his lead. Bringing me to a second area we are called to be a suitable helper to our husbands.
We are called to submit to our husbands as unto the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22) Submission is a word often cringed at by women and misunderstood. Submission means to rank ones self under someone else, yielding to their opinion and authority. Yielding to your husband’s opinion and authority is a choice, not something we are forced to do since God gives us free will. But when we submit to our husbands as unto the Lord, we can do it cheerfully. It does not mean you are a doormat to your husband, nor does it mean we can’t have any say or input in matters. On the contrary, wives should speak with wisdom and faithful instruction (Proverbs 31:26) but should submit to the final say or decision of the husband. By submitting we give our husband’s the chance to lead by respecting their God-given leadership role. Bringing me to a third area we are called to be a suitable helper to our husbands.
We are called to respect our husbands. (Ephesians 5:33) The amplified bible tells us how to respect our husbands beautifully. It says to notice, to regard, to honor, to prefer, to venerate, to esteem, to defer, to praise, to admire and to love him exceedingly! God wants us to show respect to our husbands with our words and actions, he does not tell us to feel respect because a lot of times we may not feel respect. When we respect our husbands we are providing for one of his greatest needs besides physical intimacy and once we have a heart attitude of respect for our husbands it makes it easier to submit and serve our husbands as God calls us to.
Wives truly have tremendous influence in the marriage and can look at our role of being a suitable helper with honor. When we respect, submit and serve our husbands as God calls us to do it draws us closer together in love and understanding of each other and our roles.
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